Divorce is good for you


So many individuals hold onto marriages or relationships that have long since passed their sell by date, either deliberately blinded by their own refusal to accept change or so totally out of touch with reality that they simply cannot see truth.  It is in situations like this that truth comes seemingly ‘out of the blue’ and tears a hole in that life.  It is of course necessary, for without the hole how would the light get in?

Time after time one holds on, wishing the future to be what the past once was, a place where hopes and dreams were cherished; unfortunately the same hopes and dreams were projected onto a partner who neither has the capacity or desire to be something other than they are.  Consequently change occurs and rifts appear which are hastily covered up lest one or both parties have to look closer and read the writing now firmly printed on the ubiquitous wall.   Oh how we torture ourselves in our pre-occupation with society’s code of marital/familial happiness.

Importantly, if ignorance or a refusal to deal with one’s own truth continues, life sends a catalyst to shake up that safe little world and open one’s eyes to see precisely that which you chose to ignore.  This frequently comes in the form of another woman or man either of whom act the part of marriage breaker, and do it so well.

Does this sound like you?  Read on…

When our eyes are forcibly opened in this way we have little option but to look.  It is in the looking that the first seeds of comprehension begin to germinate.  The mind and the heart remembers’ that first moment when the marriage/relationship changed and the truth floods in like a dam bursting its wall.  Life, the landscape of our hearts will change forever.

Personal responsibility is the key to a healthy change of life, accepting that one life is now finished and that a new exciting path is opened so that you may walk on it in beauty and light is the most thrilling experience, be free.  Give grateful thanks to the souls that made liberty for you a reality and cherish the love that you once shared, however brief the moment.  Your heart is expansive enough to love everyone let alone one man or one woman, be love that is all there is.

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Writing on the wall

‘Maybe you could stay a bit longer, I could try a bit harder’

What’s wrong with the above sentence?  Maybe nothing at all, much depends on your position, which is likely to be desperation, wanting to hang on to someone who wants to leave.  Read the words again but consider the lack of balance, one person is taking responsibility for the demise of their relationship, only seeing or believing it is their own fault and that they have the power over another to fix it!

Are you currently experiencing relationship problems, not seeing the writing on the wall through a stubborn refusal to admit that all is not well in your world?  Or are you simply blinded to the truth that presents itself to you every day.  Whether it is through a song that repeats itself everywhere you go, when you wake up in the morning hearing it again in your head…listen for your own sake, life is telling you to wake up and prepare yourself for change.

If courage deserts you and you find yourself mimicking the ostrich with his head in the sand, then life will certainly shout at you through a catalyst, change will then come whether you like it or not.  Why wait and prolong the agony, deal with your challenge and move on. Simple.Copy of New Picture  ©

Private thoughts

They don’t exist, simple as that!

Everything in this world has energy, the pen you hold in your hand the words you write, the paper written on, absolutely everything you can imagine is made of energy (atoms).  It follows also that as emotions are charged with energy, love, anger, jealousy, happiness, that thoughts too have energy.  They are energy; therefore everything you think has a power endowed by you the thinker, you are the programmer of your mind.  Every thought has energy and that energy manifests in your life, either immediately or over a longer period of time.  Your life, your relationships are a testimony to your thoughts.  If confusion abounds in your life then it is time to consider the way in which you think.  Do you use words like, Don’t, Can’t, Need, Desperate, Want, Should?  If you do then it is time to ditch them and discover positive language which will propel you forward into a more positive and inspiring mindset and consequently a life that flows with Universal light.  It is not enough to say ‘I always think positively’ until you hear the exact words you think and speak then naught will change.

It’s a beautiful day, I hope it doesn’t rain!

It’s a beautiful day, let’s enjoy it!

Which of these sentences apply to you?

It takes discipline to change a lifetime of habitual negative thinking, however the moment YOU hear your thoughts properly YOU will realise certain adjustments are necessary.  If you would like to change your life then please contact me for more information.New Picture (1)©


I have grown up in a world that measures success by its bank balance. For many years I like many others adhered to this edict. As I became more involved with my own spiritual development I gradually relinquished my need to conform and disregarded society’s need to mould me.

Newly divorced with two children and zero income life became a roller coaster ride, up down stomach grabbing, toe curling on the point of screaming, god awful exhilarating and extremely hairy ride. It wasn’t long before I realised that my little family and I were really tight and loving and that we would survive regardless of forces outside of my control. It was only at this time that I took stock and asked myself what does success really mean to me? It was an enlightening moment – when I fully understood that success to me meant being calm and completely at peace even when I was not earning anything at all and that I felt exactly the same when the money was rolling in. There was no difference, money is simply a means to an end; life was delivering just what I needed.

Success to me is a BEAUTIFUL family, a happy home and the inner peace to remain in the flow regardless of what life throws at me. My bank balance is healthy, it is made of good energy and through it love, friendship, compassion and money flows to me no matter what.New Picture (1)©


An acquaintance proudly declared to me recently of her ability to let go of her anger upon anyone and everyone who came across her path. ‘Once released I feel so much better and I never feel a grudge’ Whoopy doo !!

I listened and observed silently her triumph; sadly there was little point in speaking to her of the damage she did to each and every person who was subjected to her wrath. It is absolutely pointless to try to open the eyes of one who does not wish to learn, and therefore I remained silent rather than bring her attention to less damaging ways of dealing with such powerful emotion.

It is a great pity that the words ‘what goes around comes around’ are completely disregarded that is, until we hear the same angry person whining, unable to understand why she is the recipient of so much anger. Oops! It is time to look at your life methinks.

If you would like to know more about ways to deal with anger please contact me – mail@annharoldclairvoyance.com  New Picture (1)©